Jealous of your ex’s rebound relationship? Learn how to use it to your advantage
You might think that it is impossible to get your ex back if he has found someone else. You almost certainly have the feeling of hopelessness and utter despondency. The pain of a broken relationship is hard to bear, especially if there is another girl on the scene. Sadly, I have experienced it first hand, so I know how you feel. But if you play your cards right and follow some proven advice, you will find that there is a chance that you could be one of the 90% of the people who manage to get back together with your ex.
Tip 1: never run before you can walk! There are proven tactics you need to learn first, and without understanding them, you could ruin your chances once and for all. Take some time to evaluate what just happened and what your true feelings are for your ex. You must determine if you really love him and want him back or if you are just jealous that he found someone else before you. If you are going to try to get it back, you need to make sure you do it for the right reasons.
What is the first thing a woman usually does in cases like this? Yelling, crying, yelling abuse maybe? Do you think this would help things? Well, I doubt it fills you with love and admiration, right? Well, make sure you don’t do that, instead take some time to evaluate your actions and stay away from him if you think you might get angry or upset in his presence. Make sure you don’t face it until you have calmed down and can think rationally. You will still feel hurt and upset, but you need to stay calm if you want to have any chance of getting it back in the long run.
The next step is the most difficult; you have to let it go, at least for the moment. Think of this stage quite literally, it is a boomerang that has to go and find itself before it finds its way back to you. Of course, this is not an easy task and it will require a great deal of determination on your part to make it work, just keep thinking about the future goal and it will help. Accept that it is over between you and allow him to move on. If your ex still has feelings for you, this will worry him. In the next few weeks do not resort to following him or tormenting him with text messages, on the contrary, if you can avoid him for a while it would be better. The most important thing is that you do not let him think that you are needy, desperate or jealous, as these are very unattractive qualities that men hate and run from. If possible, you should be independent and mature, and this will get their attention immediately.
Now the next part is a bit tricky. If you have mutual friends, make sure you don’t waste time telling them what an idiot he has been, you should realize that he will communicate directly with him. Whatever you do, don’t say anything about his new girlfriend, even if she has two heads and a nose ring, you will only make him defensive towards her. Keep your opinions to yourself and bite your lips, as you could hurt your chances a lot more than you think and strengthen your relationship in the process.
The next step is where you learn to gradually build a friendship with your ex: a purely innocent and unattached friendship. You need him to start seeing yourself as your best friend and confidant. Resist any urge to talk about your new girlfriend or persuade him to leave her at this stage. Once you’ve established a solid friendship again, it will be easy to put the pieces back together once your new relationship begins to unravel. Focus on using your listening skills during this period and make it a friendly duty for him to cry. If you can be positive, kind, and understanding, this will be of great help to him and he will begin to see what he is missing.
If you want to get your ex back, the next task is vital. Think carefully about what your ex liked about you first. You have to ask yourself: was it my looks, my smile, or my sense of humor? Whatever it is, do you still have it? If not, you should focus on getting it back. You’re going to have to learn to become irresistible to him again. By following the right tips, you will find out how to do it in no time. However, it is vital not to overdo it here. If you turn the spell too much, it will be very obvious what you are trying to do and he will run a mile. Do not flirt with him or it will cause him to distrust you and withdraw and appear extremely disrespectful to his new relationship. Be natural and genuine and he will start to see you again in a positive light.
You may think that getting your ex back is not possible, but using the correct procedures it is amazing what can be accomplished. If you are absolutely sure that he is the one for you, then these methods are worth learning. If you make sure to follow the proven tips above, as well as other secret tricks, you will soon have your ex back in your arms.