How internalized emotions turn into physical pain

We all internalize things, situations, or even people differently. You cannot order with an empty cup. My husband has been telling me this continuously because it was a very difficult lesson for me. It is still a less difficult for me and most days I have to make a dedicated effort to remember it. I spent most of my life putting the needs of others before my own. I was always proud of the fact that I cared so much about others, because in my mind, that meant I was a good person and could look at myself in the mirror every day and feel good about myself.

Now let’s look at the other side of the spectrum … looking at other points of view of a situation is very difficult because most people only want to see one side of things. Some, because they feel so passionate about it that they cannot be open enough to at least try to see another point of view. Others, because seeing another point of view would show another a very uncomfortable truth that they may not be ready to see.

This is what I mean: I used to really believe and be happy with who I was; take care and make sure everyone I loved was okay. Now mind you, I’m not saying this isn’t a lovely way to be because I think it is. But, by taking care of everyone before me, can you guess who was not taken care of? While making sure everyone else was okay, all my time, effort, money, and love was spent on someone else. At the end of the day, the week, or even the month, I didn’t spend much time on myself. At the end of the day, I internalized it as that I was not as important as everyone else in my life.

I have talked a lot about the Law of Attraction and I think this is true. Our brains are much more powerful than we can sometimes understand. It is your brain that can and will dictate what is presented to us only with our thoughts. And not just our thoughts, but our perceptions. Just as equals attract thoughts, if you perceive these thoughts to be negative, you will attract more perceived “negativity” into your life.

Have you ever noticed a situation unfolding with two very different people and two very different opposite reactions? Perhaps a person reacted calmly, serenity and serenity; the other person would shoot out and create a snowball effect of negativity in their world that day. Here is an example: a person sitting in traffic who is not moving seriously, is very angry and in a bad mood, and now, for the rest of the day, that negativity increases and grows as other negative things happen, like the copier. being broken when you get to work, or your food is cold when you get it. Meanwhile, the other person pulls out of traffic and enjoys some time alone. This person understands that there is nothing he can do about it, so maybe what he does is dance and sing his favorite song. Taking a negative situation and putting a positive spin on it is very difficult, but also very liberating.

It’s not really about who is right in that situation and who is wrong, but rather that you see that your brain can and does internalize everything. And your brain also internalizes the things that you perceive to be right or wrong. If we could just stop in the judgments of ourselves and others, and allow each experience that we have in front of us to help us grow and become more grounded, then we would get better health. Just as your brain attracts to you what you internalize, without your realizing it, so does your body. Your body is no different. Your body also gives you little signals that something is wrong every day. Most people are so used to ignoring these signs that they can’t even see them now. When you internalize these negative emotions and hold them there, they settle in your body as aches and pains. Eventually, after your body has been yelling at you for quite some time, it begins to create disease.

Any pain, discomfort, or tightness in certain areas of the body often has to do with the emotions you have within you. This may sound very silly, but it is because most people are simply not in touch with what is going on in their body. I can tell you without a doubt that this is certainly true, as I have personally experienced it. It was through a lot of counseling, reading, and a desire to heal that I realized this was true. Growing up in a home where children were seen and not heard, one could internalize that their voice and opinion did not matter. That same child can learn to live in silence and never have an opinion, for most of his life. It is that same child who would end up later in life with thyroid cancer.

Now some may choose to look at right and wrong in that situation, in judgment, but again, judgment is not necessary, nor is it the point. Others may choose to have a better understanding and see the big picture; that any negative emotion internalized will lead to aches, pains, and even illness if internalized long enough. Being that child I just talked about, I now make a dedicated effort every day, to speak my truth, no matter how I feel it will be received. I choose not to live in the right or wrong of a situation in judgment, but to learn the lesson and know my self-worth. This is a difficult task, not only for me, but for many.

Here are some pain that is directly related to emotions that we can recognize and help us heal:


Headache often means feeling overwhelmed. If you simply recognized that you are overwhelmed and found a healthy and constructive way to get over it, you would easily get over it. Do you love to cook, write, dance or paint? Do one of those things that you love and give back some well-deserved time for your relaxation. Take time to do a relaxing meditation. Let yourself know that you deserve it and that it is worth it!

Neck Pain

The physical symptoms of neck pain have to do with disc disease or osteoporosis. Whenever these symptoms appear, you may be holding on to an emotional fear of life or insecurity. Perhaps these emotions are helping you to be stubborn and inflexible. If this is something that you recognize, try to make a conscious effort to see the other side of a situation and understand that there is no right or wrong, only lessons that help you grow, be more grounded and healthy.

Shoulder pain

The physical symptoms of shoulder pain can tell you that you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders and that you are not taking the time to take care of yourself. Shoulder pain can appear because it represents our personal capacity to carry the experience of life with joy and gratitude; not a burden. Try to learn the lesson and grow. Take time for yourself and the well-being of your mind, body and spirit!

Upper back pain

Upper back pain generally represents itself as feelings of lack of emotional support. The feelings of not being loved or not loved enough appear and this is a reminder that we are in charge of our own happiness. We must remember that at the end of the day, WE are responsible for our own happiness. Go and get what you want, no matter how uncomfortable it feels. Because you deserve at least that and much more!

Mid back pain

Middle back pain usually represents itself as feelings of guilt or simply as being stuck in the past. Again, this is a reminder to look at the situation, not to put blame, or good or bad, but to grow your own happiness right now.

Back pain

The physical symptoms of low back pain can manifest as sciatica, pelvic disorders, kidney stones, or colon problems. These symptoms can appear when you are fearful or lack financial support. Any pain in this area can keep you in a constant state of fear, because now you may think, “What if I can’t work because of this?” Do you see this snowball? It could be catastrophic if you are the person who will allow it. Again, listen to your body and find the source of this pain. Take care of yourself to do whatever it takes, so that you can release these emotions that are causing your body pain.

Knee pain

Knee pain appears when we have an inability to stoop or become inflexible on certain topics, feelings, or emotions. Again, remember that there are two very different types of people in the world and three sides to every story; At the end of the day, none of these things really matter. It doesn’t matter who is right or who is wrong or even what happened. Our happiness is what really matters. It is only what we take in and learn from these situations, and how we love ourselves in the end that will keep us healthy and whole.

Hip pain

Hip pain is a sign of indecision; be afraid to make an important decision and move on. First of all, think about the worst that could happen if you make the wrong decision. You may have to start over. This may be a huge thing for some, but for others it is a great learning experience, because they were able to maintain a positive attitude. Everything is a matter of perception. Make it a great learning experience and learn to trust your gut. In most cases, you will find that you had the correct answer all the time, but did not trust yourself enough to take the first step. Fear is one of the things that will keep us in a state of imbalance, which is what creates disease. I love you enough to trust you!

Ankle pain

Ankle pain denotes emotions of inflexibility and guilt. This is a direct representation of the ability to receive pleasure or not. Again, sometimes we just need to remind ourselves how important our happiness is. We need to remind ourselves every day to take well-deserved time for ourselves and our well-being.

I started here with “You can’t pour it from an empty cup!” And while I believe this to be true, I still have to work every day to remember this and try to continue to undo some of the negativity that I have allowed. stay in me and in my body. This is a work in progress for me to continually move beyond my definition of each experience and use those experiences to move into a state of consciousness, so that I can keep myself and my body rooted in the here and now and stay healthy. . Old habits are indeed hard to die, but all we can do is learn from the experiences we have had and do the best we can for ourselves every day. Learn and work every day to keep your mind, body, and spirit in a balanced state! This is what keeps you healthy and whole ~!

“If someone wants to be in good health, they must first ask themselves if they are willing to put an end to the reasons for their illness. Only then is it possible to help them.”

~ Hippocrates

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt