If your boyfriend is a flirt, you most likely knew it when you met him. What do you do to master this habit? The answer may surprise you, but the answer is nothing. You have to learn to live with it or let it go. Chances are, if you get too attached to a flirting man, he will just go to greener pastures, where he can be more himself.
For example, I used to be a cocktail waitress, so I have observed men in their worst behavior. Many times, the waitress is encouraged to test her high paying customers, and many times, I did just that. I also flirted for tips. I’ve seen men take off their wedding rings, turn off cell phones and put them away, and flatly lie about their girlfriends or wives, even if they’re at the bar with them. I have been swiped business cards with credit cards in hopes of being able to call one of these garbage bags. I never called any of them. I knew they weren’t serious and I’m one of those strange women who really respects the bond of a relationship.
Men and women tend to get a little stupid when it comes to alcohol. I always used the bar as my safety net. However, not all women are like me. Not all women care if your man is in a relationship. This is what I noticed in the differences between the good guys who flirt and the dirty ones who want to cheat.
Some guys like to be tied up on a short leash. Not the flirting. Flirting should be kept in check, but you need plenty of room to roam. Many times a good guy will flirt with the waitress or bartender because he knows it’s like flirting with a stripper. Your attention is pleasant as long as you tip properly. You have to wonder how this makes you feel. How about the fact that you are giving your money to a total stranger? A beautiful, often exotic and sexy stranger. Instead of seeing it as a huge blow to your relationship. Look at it from a healthier perspective. Your guy needs to feel sexy, and if he goes out and spends his money on it, and he has the money to spend it, then you might consider that a version of therapy for him.
Men want attention in the same way as women. They long for someone to tell them how sexy they are. They long for someone to lavish them with attention, even if the attention is not lasting. You have to wonder if you’re providing that, and if not, expect him to go out there and find someone who will, even if it’s just for a second.
Also, before you think he’s a total cheater, most guys aren’t cheats. In fact, men become fond of women very easily. Especially when they are in a relationship. They generally don’t cheat. In fact, most men, if you approach them to get on with someone they’ve been flirting with, they will flinch. The idea of being with someone new is exciting, but men make sense. If they have something nice with you, they won’t leave it for a stranger.
The best way to capture a guy with a wandering eye is to let your eye wander with his.
For example, my boyfriend and I were having coffee. A beautiful young blonde was in line behind us. I saw my boyfriend shuffle his feet and look away like he didn’t want to be caught staring at her. I whispered in her ear that she was extremely beautiful and I saw her too. Instantly, he calmed down and didn’t turn to look at her again. I gave what I was thinking a name and it calmed down.
My boyfriend is extremely attractive and I have seen women flirt with him right in front of me. What should I do? I flirt with the woman who is flirting with my man. This can really throw some of the ill-intentioned women out of your way. Basically, if you join forces with the woman who is flirting, you have a better chance of keeping your man close. If you complain and act jealous, he is sure to go astray. Act like it doesn’t bother you. Trust your boyfriend unless he gives you a reason not to. Like women, men also like a little attention. As long as the attention is harmless, give your guy the benefit of the doubt and let him feel like a stud from time to time.
The other side of the coin is the bag of land. They are out there and are actually quite easy to spot. In my next article I will discuss the warning signs of a bag of dirt.