Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: What Makes The Genders So Different

What makes the genres so different?

Studies have shown that men and women process thought and communicate differently, supporting the old adage “Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.” In contrast to their male counterparts, women are professionals at multitasking. They can take notes on what groceries to buy for dinner, plan dinner, remember to pick up the kids after school and take them to their sport, pay their bills due, get their laundry done and done while checking on their friends or talking to their mom by phone. By comparison, men think unilaterally, meaning they progress from one thought process to another, typically jumping between topics related to sex or sports, and then back to sex. As such, it’s no surprise to learn that heterosexual couples often have heated debates that turn into arguments when the women try to resolve matters by speaking through them. They often discuss multiple areas of dispute at once and the men respond by shutting down because they feel overwhelmed by the discussion at hand and the number of dialects involved.

Communication can be improved

Communication can improve and relationships can be more fluid if both men and women understand and appreciate the differences in the ways in which both genders complete their thought processes and communicate.

A series of experiments by Stoet, O’Connor, Conner, Laws, (2013) confirm the widely held belief that women outperform men when it comes to multitasking. Is this gender difference in communication part of the nature versus nurture debate, or is it attributable to the social roles that are attributed to men and women, even in modern society?

A report published by Szameitat, Hamaida, TulleySaylik, Otermans, (2015) suggests that the trend towards gender difference is a consequence of habit. Women tend to juggle household chores, careers and child-rearing because they have historically taken on those jobs and perfected them over time. Women have many responsibilities placed upon them and they have no viable option but to try to accomplish each task two or three at a time. Women do these extra jobs and they do it efficiently building their skills not only for themselves but also for their male partners.

As such, it’s easy to understand why men and women have difficulty solving problems. They often come to the table hoping to work out some sort of resolution to a disagreement, only to leave you frustrated because neither side has acknowledged the problem, discussed the issue as each needs to discuss, or come to a firm solution.

Why do men and women have so much trouble communicating with each other?

The question is deceptively simple. According to Karina Merchant (2012), women are more emotional, shy and educated in conversation, while men are more assertive and autocratic.

Sociolinguist Deborah Tannen (1990), an expert on forms of communication between men and women, believes that our biological makeup is responsible for the way we communicate, or don’t. Unlike men, women love to talk; it is their openness to frank discussions that allows them to develop a bond of intimacy. By comparison, men are overwhelmed by the topics being raised and eventually tune out of the conversation. Both men and women would benefit from understanding these different approaches.

Clearly, men and women think differently

Simply, men can think or discuss only two or three things at a time; they generally process slower than their female counterpart. Women can process faster and often seven to nine things at a time. While women often complain that their male partner is unable to communicate, men can communicate very well. Men require security and time to discuss a topic. Once they are overwhelmed by numerous issues, they shut down due to their processing limit, not their lack of communication skills.

Communication is vital to maintaining a healthy relationship. Both genders perform communication tasks very differently. As such, heated discussions ensue. Couples would benefit from understanding these differences, appreciating them, and moving on with their lives better prepared.

Couples need to discuss one point of contention at a time. Focus on the solution they want to achieve before speaking and less on the actual problem at hand. Once a solution can be prioritized, both partners can move toward resolving the issue. Brief, concise and direct communication is best if you are looking for a solution. Providing a safe environment to discuss any matter is equally necessary. A safe environment of calm, withholding derogatory comments or telling someone that their feelings or perceptions are wrong provides this safety and allows each person to reveal their thoughts and feelings to each other.

Once these differences are understood, communication can be opened and resolutions can be reached.


Merchant, K. (2012). How Men and Women Differ: Gender Differences in Communication Styles, Influence Tactics, and Leadership Styles. CMC senior thesis, Document 513.

Stoet, G., O’Connor, B., Conner, M., Laws, K., (2013). Are women better than men at multitasking? BMC Psychology 1 (18).

Szameitat, A., Hamaida, Y., Tulley, R., Saylik, R., Otermans, P., (2015). “Women are better than men”: Public beliefs about gender differences and other aspects of multitasking. Plus one.

Tannen, D. (1990). You just don’t understand: women and men in conversation. New York, NY: William Morrow & Company.

Tea "puppet syndrome" damage all relationships

Do you feel in control of your life? Or do you feel like a puppet because someone else is pulling your strings? Have you set yourself aside to play the role of man, husband or father, or woman, wife or mother that your parents and society taught you? If you answered “yes” to any of the questions, are you really happy?

I discovered “puppet syndrome” early in my practice as a marriage and family therapist. When some of my clients shared their dilemmas, I had the image of a puppet. Since a picture is worth a thousand words, I asked them to imagine they were a puppet and look up to see who was pulling their strings. Their responses included their mothers, fathers, partners, bosses, friends, or religious leaders. Sometimes their children were even in control. Needless to say, these customers were not very happy or satisfied.

Why do we give our power to others? I believe we are born with basic survival instincts. If we feel that the only way we can be loved and cared for is by pleasing our parents, we can let go of our true selves and be who they want us to be. We become “people pleasers.” That survival technique becomes part of our personality, and even as adults, we continue to say and do what others want in order to be safe and accepted.

What are some of the typical responses of a “puppet”? “I’ll be happy to do whatever you want to do.” “I agree with whatever you want.” “Tell me what you decide, and I’ll be fine with your decision.” “Whatever you say, I’ll do it.” I imagine we all say these things from time to time. However, the difference is that we are speaking our truth at that moment. People who give their power to others often do not express what they really feel or want. They will pretend to be who and how others want them to be.

It goes without saying that these men and women who are controlled by their fears of survival are very unhappy and can suffer from depression. They are likely to numb their emotional pain with addictions. Puppets often have physical problems because they hide their true feelings, including their anger and resentment. Nobody likes to be controlled! When they feel miserable enough, they can go to therapy and discover the causes of their deceitful behaviors. In severe cases, men and women are not even in touch with their wishes, if asked, because they buried them so deeply.

The cure for these “people pleasers” is to believe that they can express themselves in words and actions and be accepted, loved, and safe. They can then cut the “puppet strings” and be in control of their lives. They may feel comfortable making “I” statements, such as “I’d like to go to this movie. I don’t like that one.”

Most people love being with “pleasers” because they feel like they’re in control and getting what they want. However, if you are “pulling strings” for someone else, you will likely pay a price in experiencing their passive aggression. For example, they may be late, forget what you want them to remember, have affairs, or, to your surprise, one day file for divorce.

If someone tries to give me their power, I refuse to accept it and be in control. I say, “That doesn’t work for me. Tell me what you really want and let’s come to a win-win deal.” That suits me better, because I want to be with equals. I also don’t want to be boomeranged or beaten up later for their passive aggressive behavior.

If you feel like a puppet, release the fears of not being able to be who you are and be accepted, loved, or safe. So, you will be much happier because the answer to the question “Who runs your life?” it will be you!

Salt water discharge: bathe inside

Interest in the Master Cleanse Diet has skyrocketed lately, and this interest has also popularized the Salt Water Flush, which is recommended to coincide with the Master Cleanse. However, the salt water rinse can also be done on its own. For reasons you’ll soon discover, it’s the most effective colon and intestinal cleanser and doesn’t require expensive or invasive procedures.

The Salt Water Flush is an ancient Ayurvedic intestinal and body cleansing. It purifies the digestive system from top to bottom and leeches impurities from the organs. The two goals of any cleanup are to mobilize debris and then dispose of it. The salt water rinse is primarily eliminative, so it’s safe to do it alone to get rid of toxins or in combination with other cleansing procedures. While laxatives and enemas only cleanse the colon, which is a relatively small part of the digestive system, the Salt Water Flush cleanses the entire digestive system. It also doesn’t promote dependency like expensive store-bought remedies do. The salt water rinse is often used to treat colds, high blood pressure, digestive problems, and fever. Many people report increased energy and appetite after several mornings, along with fresher breath, better sleep, clearer skin, and better digestion.

After reading the long list of benefits, you’re probably wondering how to get started, so let’s get into the details right now. Following the instructions, we will list some exercises that help speed up the transit time of salt water, and then some important tips so that you do not feel abandoned “at sea”. The salt water rinse is done by heating a quart of water, just enough to make it lukewarm, not boiling. Add two teaspoons of sea salt (not table salt) and include lime or lemon juice to enhance flavor. Drink the entire amount in one sitting, do this at dawn every day for seven days. Make sure you sip the drink instead of swallowing it.

Within 30 to 45 minutes of drinking the saline solution, you will feel the urge to have a bowel movement. Depending on your diet and the number of times you have flushed, you may feel bloated and elimination may not come within the specified time period. Fortunately, there are some simple exercises to speed up the process. The first recommended exercise is the Kogasana or Crow pose. Simply squat down with your back against a wall while drinking water. Another exercise is to rub your stomach both clockwise and counterclockwise. Third, you can try spreading your feet apart and twisting your body from left to right (this is a great stretch for your lower back and core). Lastly, the traditional Cobra position is also great for stimulating the intestines.

You’re almost ready to start your first saltwater wash, but don’t start before reading these tips:

  • The Salt Water Flush is useful before beginning a new naturopathic program, such as a new dietary or vitamin regimen. It allows you to start clean and see the pure benefits of the new program.
  • Talk to a doctor first if you have ulcers, appendicitis, tuberculosis, or cancer.
  • Celtic Sea Salt is reported to make the taste more tolerable.
  • Using a straw can help with the flavor of the drink.
  • A shock will not work properly if it is done too soon after your last meal. Wait at least eight hours.
  • Plan to be near the toilet for two hours after drinking the solution.
  • Headaches are a common symptom of detoxification. They usually go away by the fourth day.

You are now ready for an age old trusted cleansing program that perfectly complements the Master Cleanse Diet and is just as effective on its own. Enjoy your journey to radiant health!

Candidiasis Diet: The Foods You Should Include To Get Rid Of Candidiasis Infections

What do you mean by “thrush diet”? Can I heal myself by eating the right food? Yeast infection or Candida Albicans occurs very often in women, although men and even children can also be affected. The root cause of the infection is an overgrowth of a natural fungus: Candida Albicans. The most commonly affected areas of the body are the vagina, in the case of babies, diaper rash, candidiasis (throat and mouth) and the male genitalia. With the right diet, you can help your body heal itself from Candida overgrowth and prevent further outbreaks.

Candidiasis Diet: What You SHOULD Eat:

– Colorful vegetables (anything yellow, purple, red, and green, like bell peppers, carrots, lettuce, tomatoes)
– Other vegetables such as sweet potatoes, bok choy, celery, romaine lettuce, cabbage, broccoli, and spinach
– Whole-grain and low-carb breads, pastas, noodles, and rice
– Salad dressings without sugar, although a limited portion
– Garlic, onion, olive oil, organic apple cider vinegar, fresh herbs
– Fresh fruit, such as lemons, apples, limes, oranges, pineapples, berries, melons
– Protein in forms of fish, chicken, eggs, turkey (baked or grilled)
– Unsweetened soy milk and natural yogurt (excellent for re
-establish bacterial balance)
– A little butter, almond butter, walnuts, almonds, roasted soy nuts and pumpkin seeds, all rich in unsaturated fats

Candidiasis Diet
– What you SHOULD NOT eat:

– Lots of spices, very spicy food will not help but will irritate your already infected tissue.
– Beverages such as fruit punch, teas and caffeinated beverages, soft drinks, colas, sweetened fruit juices, sugary drinks, coffee
– Peanuts and peanut butter, pistachios
– Certain dairy products such as cheese, milk, flavored yogurt, ice cream
– Meats such as red meat and pork, sandwiches, salami, bacon, bologna, hot dogs, sausages
– White flour bread and products such as hamburger buns and hot dog buns, soda crackers and others, bread sticks, breadcrumb coating
– White vegetables such as white rice, potatoes, grits and all kinds of canned vegetables, as they lose most of their vitamins in the canning process.
– Alcohol and fermented foods such as beer, ginger ale, cider, soy sauce, most salad dressings
– Sugars, including honey and white sugar

Under normal circumstances, our immune system prevents and manages yeast overgrowth. With a thrush diet, you can boost your immune system to eliminate the overgrowth and prevent Candida infections more efficiently.

What to do when you can’t sleep: honey and cinnamon

I couldn’t fall asleep last night.

Nothing I tried worked so I finally gave up and got up. I made popcorn and watched a movie. When I tried again a little after 2:00 am, I still couldn’t sleep. I don’t know what time it was when I finally left, but I sure wasn’t ready to get up this morning.

One effect of sleep deprivation is a lack of ambition. I managed to put off most of the things I had intended to do today, like mowing the lawn.

Lack of concentration can also result from lack of sleep. She was browsing online, in a forum for Baby Boomers. I saw a thread titled “The Elderly and Sleep Problems.” Now, usually, I would object to that word “old man.” At 60, I don’t consider myself old, except after a night like last night.

My son, every time he tries to cajole me into doing something I really don’t want to do, he’s like, “Come on, Mom, you’re only as old as you feel.” Today I feel old.

Anyway, I thought I’d read the posts about sleep problems in the elderly, but when I tried to click on the thread, my concentration or hand-eye coordination failed, and I ended up clicking on the thread above.

That one was titled “The Health Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon.”

Oh well, sometimes you have to play the hand you are dealt or run with the ball that is thrown to you.

It seems that honey and cinnamon have a long tradition as herbal remedies for numerous conditions. It is said to be beneficial in preventing heart attacks and reducing arthritis pain. The dose is a cup of hot water, 1/2 teaspoon of cinnamon and 2 teaspoons of honey. Taken every day, it is supposed to reduce inflammation.

Honey and cinnamon not only help with symptoms of stomach problems and the flu, but have also been shown to strengthen the immune system for the prevention of viral and bacterial infections, and greatly help white blood cells to fight diseases.

Used in conjunction with a healthy lifestyle, daily use of both ingredients 3-4 times a day is recommended to help eliminate many aging problems (there’s that word again!), to maintain good health and live a longer life.

In addition, there is evidence that fat formation is prevented if a teaspoon of honey and cinnamon mixed in a cup of boiled water is routinely taken before breakfast and before going to bed, as it helps reduce weight, even in the morning! obese people!

In some cases, honey and cinnamon have been shown to be effective anticancer agents; this is due in part to its ability to strengthen the immune system, as well as its cleansing qualities.

Lastly, honey used in paste form is helpful in soothing rashes and rashes, from the simple pimple to the most serious eczema and even ringworm.

The only benefit the thread didn’t mention is that a tablespoon of honey in a cup of warm milk with a pinch of nutmeg (but cinnamon probably works too) can help you fall asleep. Imagine that!

Individual character: will it be the same after death?

Dr. Raymond Moody carefully studied the visions of people near death. They reported similar experiences to each other which he termed the ‘near death experience‘. What the typical individual notices are:

“A warm spirit of light appears and this being communicates in a non-verbal way so that he thinks about his past life and sees the important events of his life as they were played back to him.”

Those people who experience a near death experience commonly report this life review process as part of their vision.

Interestingly, mediums also report that sooner or later after death, each person’s spirit must undertake a life review. All the lessons that could be learned from recent terrestrial life are explored in the course of this review. This is said to involve directly experiencing, within oneself, the happiness and emotional suffering caused in others by one’s own actions. People don’t always recognize when they are being loyal, kind, and helpful. They also don’t always realize when they have been critical and inconsiderate of the needs of others.

Will others see any fault in our character?

Swedenborg also describes how the inner character of people in the next life is gradually revealed so that each can be seen for what he is. The hypocrisy is exposed, the simulation no longer works, and the soul is ugly and naked.

Our inner character is what we really want and desire. In ordinary life it often remains hidden. Who deep down does not want social approval? So not many of us are so open with our true feelings and attitudes as to reveal who we are on the inside, warts and all. Except possibly for those who share our home, other people do not clearly know us. We often pretend, even to ourselves, to be better than we really are.

In my clinical practice with clients suffering from various personal problems, I have noticed that they vary in their self-awareness. The process of personal therapy can help unravel unseen reasons why any of us act as we do. The counselor helps to explore our true character.

Such exposure, we are told, occurs in the afterlife. One way of putting it is to say that the inner individuality can be seen in the light of truth but not recognized in the darkness of self-righteousness.

It is not hard to imagine that, if true, there will be unrest in the afterlife as the person confronts his or her past desires and intentions. But this is a necessary step if spiritual progress is ever to be made. Some of us can hope we can be ‘purified’ in relation to any damage that we may have caused in the terrestrial life.

Do we purify ourselves after death?

This notion of a ‘purification’ process seems akin to the notion of ‘purge’. This is a Roman Catholic doctrine regarding the afterlife. Furthermore, Chinese folk religion speaks of, “Diyu” which is a mythological realm of purgatory. It is said to serve to punish and renew spirits in preparation for what is believed to be reincarnation.

Swedenborg describes what may be a similar process in the afterlife which he calls ‘vastness‘. In his view, this is when others challenge one’s mistaken assumptions and selfish motives. If the individual basically wants to know what is good and feels genuine remorse for the harm done, then any remaining self-centered attitude can be set aside. Those with basic good intentions go through experiences that remove their wrong ways of thinking so that they live in the light.

On the other hand, if the person is not interested in the truth about their life, they may become defensive and resist the enlightenment process. They avoid taking responsibility for things. The consequence would be no learning and no improvement.

Albert Ellis (the founder of rational-emotive behavior therapy) wrote “The best years of your life are the ones when you decide that your problems are your own. You don’t blame your mother, or the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”

I would say that in the afterlife that follows death, the inner character that we formed while living in the world will gradually emerge. Who we really are will be revealed to others and to ourselves. The individual differences between us are obvious. The whole world would see those of us who have honest integrity. Likewise, those who have selfish attachments.

Does the quality of life after death have to do with our individual character?

Professor Fontana points out that mediums who work with spirits sometimes insist that people do not change their nature simply by dying. For example, he quotes one who says:

‘Death does not make a sinner a saint, nor a fool wise. The mentality is the same as before and individuals carry their old desires, habits, dogmas, faulty teachings, indifference or disbelief with them into a future life.’ (Carl Wickland)

I would say that if each of us becomes the person we have chosen to be, do we not create our own destiny? It could be said that it is a bit like the idea of ​​karma. I accumulate karma and positive or negative karma affects my destiny.

Similarly, and according to Swedenborg, the quality of life experienced after death depends on the inner character that each of us has formed during life in the physical world. How each person grows and develops. What desires ruled our hearts.

How does individual character affect our happiness?

If, during the life before death, we became kind and sensible, then we will experience a life after death surrounded by constant kindness and sensibleness. But those of us who had become selfish and foolish will instead want to live in a different social climate. One where different social norms apply. A state of existence created by those whose lives are equally focused on what they want for themselves. Not such a pleasant experience, one might say. But wouldn’t it make us as happy as we are capable of being?

A selfish life leads to your own happiness or at least your own illusion of happiness. Such an individual finds pleasure in bringing out the best in others, in taking what they possess, in manipulating them to get his way. On the other hand, a altruistic life delights in serving the community, being helpful to the family, and seeking the good in others, even when friends and relatives are rude or unkind.

Basic guide and how to identify the skin care products that will work best for you

You are never too young or too old to start taking care of your skin. In fact, skin care and protection should be an essential part of your health, fitness and beauty regimen. If you take care of your skin, your skin will take care of you! But with all the lotions, creams, and potions on the market, it can be hard to know which product will work for your skin. Many products claim to remove wrinkles or heal dry skin and others claim to contain expensive ingredients that they say will help enhance the effects of the product. Here’s a guide to the basic skin care products on the market and how you can identify which product will work best for you.

A look at the products

There are various types of skin care products that can be a useful addition to your daily skin care. These include cleansers, sunscreens, moisturizers, eye creams, toners, exfoliators, retinoids, herbs, and skin care supplements.

Toners: Skin toners offer additional cleansing properties to the skin that help remove oil, dirt, and makeup. But if your skin has become dry, avoid using toners or use them less often. These skin care products often contain alcohol or acetone and can aggravate dry or sensitive skin.

Sunscreen: Sunscreen is an essential product for the care and protection of our skin. While it is true that some exposure to sunlight is needed for the body to synthesize vitamin D, it really only takes 10 to 15 minutes per day to do so. Excessive sun exposure can cause skin cell changes that lead to damage that can develop brown spots, skin cancer, dry skin, and premature wrinkles. It doesn’t matter if your skin is light or dark, both skin colors can be damaged by too much sun exposure. Prevent sun damage and reduce the risk of developing skin problems by applying a generous amount of sunscreen daily with at least an SPF 15 cream or lotion. Many moisturizers come with sunscreen already included.

Retinoids: Topical vitamin A-based products called retinoids have made significant strides in reducing the appearance of wrinkles and fine lines. They help temporarily “fill in” wrinkle areas and decrease their visibility.

Cleaners: Cleansers help remove dirt, debris, pollutants, and perspiration that build up on your skin throughout the day. These cleansers can come in liquid, foam, or stick form.

Eye creams: An eye cream can help improve the condition of the fragile skin around the eyes. Helps hydrate and protect the eye area and can even help minimize dark circles or temporarily tighten fine lines.

Exfoliation: The use of moisturizers and cleansers help improve the appearance of the skin by removing dead skin cells on the surfaces. These can also help smooth the appearance of skin and even discoloration from excessive sun exposure. As we age, the skin accumulates dead cells that make us look older, have rough skin and cause wrinkles or fine lines to appear. Your skin looks healthy and youthful when you exfoliate daily and feel clean and fresh.

Supplements: Coenzyme Q10 is a natural cellular antioxidant that has shown potential in the prevention and treatment of various diseases, including heart disease, Parkinson’s disease, diabetes, and certain types of cancer. It is also used in many moisturizing products for its wrinkle-reducing properties.

Herbs: Green tea and other herbal antioxidants can be applied topically or orally to fight free radical damage and improve your overall appearance.

Moisturizing: Moisturizers can soothe dry skin and make wrinkles less noticeable. They come in cream, lotion, and oil form. Oil-based moisturizers are good for severely dry skin, while a cream or lotion is a better choice for your face, as it will leave your face feeling less heavy and greasy. For best results, use a moisturizer right after you shower to seal moisture into your skin.

Ingredient Label Identification

You may be wondering why skincare products come with such a confusing labeling system. The Food and Drug Administration receives many requests each year to decipher the language on the labels of cosmetic and personal care products. But while the FDA is sympathetic to consumers, there really is no way to change the labeling and keep the information accurate. Ingredients should be listed by chemical names because that is essentially what they are. Although a product may be marketed by its trade name, the label name will provide few clues to identify its ingredients. But despite the technical language of the personal care product label, it is possible to obtain useful information. Ingredient labeling should be listed in sequence based on the amount included in the formula. As a consumer, you can compare similar products by seeing where a particular ingredient falls on the list. For example, if you have sensitive skin, you may want to avoid products that have alcohol as their first ingredient rather than one of the last ingredients.

Nourishing our skin on a daily basis is as important as taking care of our health. So the next time you’re looking for skin care products, be sure to read the ingredient label and consider the types of skin care regimens that can help you look your best.

Come Fly With Me, by: Sandi Perry

Allison Ross is a beautiful New York socialite, cunning, blue-eyed and stunning. She is resourceful and strong-willed. At thirty, Allison is quite ambivalent about marriage, but is being criticized by everyone who matters to her. Her mother would love to have grandchildren and Kenyon, her fairy godmother (as he refers to himself), says that she has no love life because she is cold, acidic and icy like a winter morning in New York . Author Sandi Perry has the perfect solution for her sophisticated and sassy leading lady. Her name is Alex, but will her southern charm of hers warm her up so he can melt her heart?

Allison reflects on her life. She doesn’t see what the fuss is about. After all, she has many romantic suitors. She is rich and happy. She has her own loft of her SOHO in Manhattan. And she’s a wonderfully talented artist and smart businesswoman with a successful art gallery. In truth, she didn’t see how a man could fit into her life unless, of course, George Clooney suddenly declared her undying love for her! She then she would definitely reconsider her busy lifestyle, she thinks with a smile. A ringing phone interrupts the fantasy and her world is turned upside down. Her father is killed in a car accident that seemed innocent enough, except two detectives show up asking questions. When the will is read, Allison is her father’s first choice for the position of CEO of RossAir Industries, his main luxury aircraft company. While Allison is very capable of leading the company, she just doesn’t want to. She takes a deep breath and sets out to find a suitable CEO who will make her father proud.

Alexander Coventry is an ambitious, handsome, and sexy executive from Buckhead, the suburb of Atlanta, Georgia. He shows promise for the CEO job at RossAir, but Allison doesn’t trust him. He is arrogant and pushes his buttons in every possible way. She’s certainly found the match for her, but he’ll never know because he makes her very uncomfortable and he’s probably just interested in securing that CEO job anyway. Who will he recommend for the position if not Alex? And who would want his father dead from him? There are so many questions and so few answers.

Sandi Perry is a native New Yorker and the author of Come Fly With Me. She understands the perspective of the social elite and it is reflected in her writing. This is the second romance novel of hers that is hard to put down and very easy to read. Her book engages with sophisticated main characters who are realistic, fun-loving, and on the go; they live high-society lifestyles, but they are also realistic and demanding about what is really important in life. Deep down, Allison wants true love, even if she’s scared to open up and be honest with a potential husband. This is a story that has it all, love, romance, mystery, suspense and intrigue all the way. It’s classic romance fiction with a modern setting complete with conflict, growth, and resolution. In my opinion, Come Fly With Me is a wonderful eBook that will fly to Kindles and eBooks and find its way into the hands of lovers of romantic fiction everywhere.

Pilates Modification for Osteoporosis

Dos and Don’ts of Osteoporosis

Maintenance of bone density is achieved through long-term routine loading on our bones, which will return to pre-training density when exercise is discontinued. To better keep what you have and avoid further loss, follow these rules:

DO exercise with foot weights every day. The other day an osteoporotic client in the studio asked her why she shouldn’t keep doing the plow in yoga, since being in that extreme flexion was surely putting weight on her spine. Bearing weight in our case means standing! Rolling onto your back not only doesn’t cut your back, it can actually cause spinal fractures. Just say no!

DO work on your balance by standing as often as possible. The less you fall, the lower your risk of wrist or hip fracture. Standing yoga poses and Standing Pilates® from the PhysicalMind Institute can be very helpful here.

DO resistance, cardio, and flexibility training within safe guidelines.

Focus on extension of the spine and torso. As our bodies give in to gravity, we begin to rotate forward. It’s crucial that we constantly work to stay upright with a gentle squeeze of the shoulder blades and a lovely lift of the sternum.

Be careful when sneezing and coughing. Many fractures occur from forceful coughing and sneezing. Try to stand or sit with your back against something for support.

DO NOT flex your spine forward. Don’t bend over to tie your shoes or pick something up off the floor. Don’t lean forward when getting in and out of bed. And never roll on your spine! Yes, flexing the spine is healthy for healthy bones. It is completely contraindicated for low bone density. As you can see in the fracture image, microfractures occur in the anterior part of the spine and are irreversible. Do you want to look like a round ball all the time for the rest of your life? I know not!

DO NOT roll onto your spine. I know, I say it again, but this is very important! And I’m afraid to tell you how many clients with osteoporosis I’ve seen who have been given extreme push-up exercises by certified Pilates teachers in studios.

DO NOT forcefully twist your spine. Be kind to your spine. The forceful twist will hurt.

DO NOT do sit-ups or sit-ups! Remember the previous discussion about bending? A good Pilates teacher can show you many abdominal strengthening alternatives.

DO NOT bring your leg out to the side of your body (abduction). Many hip fractures have occurred here.

The 7 most effective techniques to regain confidence riding a horse

what. I lost my nerve a bit after I fell off my mare in the arena. Now when we ride near the gate in the arena, she turns around and freaks out. I get tense that she doesn’t help. What can I do to help us both feel more secure?

Losing “your nerve” after falling off your horse is quite common, even if you haven’t been injured.

Your mind is a powerful tool that can work for you or against you. Much of what goes on in our minds happens unconsciously.

Here are 7 quick techniques to help you get back on track.

1) Recognize that how you feel is perfectly normal. Whether you’ve had a fall from your horse or are just about to fall, even if you haven’t been hurt, a primitive part of your brain connects a place or situation with danger. It triggers the release of stress hormones (adrenaline, noradrenaline, and cortisol) that prepare you for fight or flight. These cause physical reactions such as increased heart rate, shallow breathing, and tense muscles. In this case, riding near the gate of the arena is the trigger.

two) Calm your mind with focused breathing. Breathing slowly and deeply (using your diaphragm) is the fastest way to feel calmer and more confident. Relieves physical symptoms by slowing the flow of stress hormones. Your thoughts calm down as you focus on your breath. When you are in a relaxed state, you are better able to see things as they really are because you are not experiencing the disordered thinking caused by your emotions.

3) Release the tension in your body. Stiff muscles and joints affect your balance, flexibility, and confidence. They also hit his horse. Practice recognizing where you hold the tension, and then release it by taking a deep breath and releasing it on each exhalation.

4) Change the images you see in your mind. Visualization is a strong and proven technique used successfully by professional and world-class amateur athletes to improve their skills and confidence. Your mind doesn’t know the difference between a real event and an imaginary one. If you keep repeating in your mind the mistakes you have made or what you imagine could happen, your mind believes you. Change your mental videos of the possible bad outcome to seeing the positive outcome you want. Your mind believes you either way.

5) Take care how you talk to yourself. Just like visualization, your self-talk affects your confidence and your results. Using positive self-talk is more than ‘positive thinking’. Look for solutions to possible problems instead of focusing on the problem.

6) Start in your comfort zone. Ride where you and your horse feel most comfortable. Gradually move out of that area while paying attention to your breathing, tension, and thoughts. When you feel like you can’t handle stress well, go back to the area where you were comfortable until you’re both calm again.

7) Take your time. Setting specific deadlines only puts more pressure on you and can actually damage your confidence if you don’t meet them. Taking one small step at a time has a cumulative effect that builds your confidence over time. You won’t overwhelm yourself (or your horse) as you learn new skills and expand your comfort zone.