A dangerous kind of love

When you are young and in love, every moment you spend with your special someone is like heaven on earth. In a world that shows no sympathy for young people, having someone who can love and understand you is a true blessing, a much-needed companion whose love can help dispel the fear and confusion that come with growing up. Without it, life is unthinkable. The immense pain of having to face the emptiness of being alone if you lose it is too much for you to bear. And for the sake of the precious sentiment you share with him, you are willing to accept anything, anything, including the occasional shoving, hitting, name calling, and public humiliation that you receive every time you have an argument. After all, he always apologizes afterward, and shouting matches and explosive arguments are typical among people who are seriously in love, right?


When love is a threat

The recent scandal involving icons and pop music lovers Rihanna and Chris Brown has put the spotlight on one of the most prevalent and controversial issues in relation to teens and young adults around the world: abuse in romantic relationships. According to statistical data, 33% of adolescent relationships in the US experience a form of abuse, while 12% claim to have experienced physical abuse. Despite the fact that adolescents are still considered to be immature due to their age, abuse in romantic relationships between adolescents is a form of domestic violence that can seriously affect the lives of those who are involved in it, especially those who assume the role of domestic violence. role of being abused.

As with violence in adult relationships, teen abuse includes emotional, mental, sexual, and physical forms. Adopt exactly the same abusive pattern of forced control by hoarding-dominating the other person by taking control of their decisions, through physical or emotional threats, and humiliating them in front of others; Abuse in teen relationships often manifests itself through outright possessiveness or jealousy. However, unlike adult relationship abuse in which the majority of abusers tend to be male, in abusive adolescent relationships, both sexes are equally susceptible to taking on the role of abusers. Whether it is a heterosexual or homosexual relationship, exposure to brutality can seriously endanger those who are abused, putting them at risk for the following: substance abuse, indiscriminate sexual practice, STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases), unwanted pregnancy and depression (leading to suicide if not addressed early on).

Mental perspectives

The abuse that occurs in a romantic relationship is greatly influenced by how both partners view themselves as people and their perception of other people regarding the roles they play in different relationships. Preconceptions of what relationships should be like or what specific roles each have in the relationship also greatly influence the way a teenager may view himself in relation to his partner.

Your perspective:

Girls often see themselves as the ones responsible for solving relationship problems. Aggressive or violent acts derived from jealousy and / or possessiveness is his way of expressing romanticism. Such forms of abuse, whether verbal, emotional, and / or physical, are typical in romantic relationships because your friends experience the same thing, too. No one can help them solve their problems.

Your perspective:

Being men gives them the inherent right to do whatever they want with their partners. Physical aggression is a sign of machismo / masculinity. Others may see them as weak if they are supportive or affectionate with their partners. Your partners are your possessions.